A Conversation with Sivan — Your Go-To, Jewish Matchmaker
A Conversation with Sivan — Your Go-To, Jewish Matchmaker
We sat down with Sivan to talk about her path to matchmaking, and how she blends coaching and cultural insight to help clients build lasting love. Sivan brings a culturally attuned and emotionally grounded approach to Jewish matchmaking. With roots in Israel and a background in coaching, relationship dynamics, and post-traumatic growth, she sees love as both a journey and a practice. Her work is rooted in authenticity, emotional awareness, and a deep respect for connection and tradition.
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“How did you become a matchmaker?”
“I found my way into matchmaking by following a strong, clear, and intuitive voice that came to me. One day I wondered if matchmaking was even a real job because I felt I would be amazing at it. After healing from an abusive relationship over 20 years ago, I devoted myself to learning everything about healthy love, attraction, and emotional alignment. Today, I’m in the most supportive relationship of my life, and I help others attract love that is truly good for them. To me, matchmaking is sacred, soul-guided work.”
"Can you describe your matchmaking style?"
"My style is intuitive, relational, and deeply personal. I focus on energy, values, and relational alignment—not just ticking boxes. I take the time to truly understand each client: their story, emotional patterns, what ignites their passion, and the energy they bring into connection. From there, I guide them toward matches aligned in both heart and life.
I also incorporate a spiritual Jewish perspective, especially around sacred polarity—the natural dance between masculine and feminine energies, and how they can meet, honor, and balance each other in a healthy partnership. At the same time, I draw on science, psychology, brain research, universal laws, and attachment theory, ensuring the process is both soulful and grounded."
"What’s the one question you ask matchmaking clients to narrow down their must-haves in a potential partner?"
“If a person has 80% of what you want but is missing one key quality, would you choose to be with them?”
"Is there a corresponding question or answer you are looking for from matches that clarifies they may be a good match for your client?"
“How someone talks about love, handles uncertainty, or reflects on what matters most reveals far more than any checklist. It is less about a single question and more about the energy behind their answers. I look for alignment with similar responses, beliefs, and values that resonate with my client.”
"What is the best conversation starter you’ve ever used or received?"
“The best conversation starter I’ve ever used or received is, “What’s something you’re passionate about these days, or a topic you could talk about for hours?”
"What is something that you wish more people asked on first dates?"
“What does a loving relationship look and feel like to you? What do you believe about love and relationships?”
“What do you think increases the likelihood of a second date?”
“To increase the likelihood of a second date, connect to your own spark first. The most magnetic energy you can bring is being fully yourself, lit up by your own life, grounded in who you are, and open to connection. When two people show up this way, each rooted in their own joy, curiosity, and presence, something real can easily ignite. It is not about performing, pleasing, or posturing but about two sparks meeting and recognizing something alive in each other.”
“What is a small dating gesture that instantly makes you feel appreciated?”
“A small dating gesture that instantly makes me feel appreciated is when someone follows up after a date with a kind, intentional message. A simple note saying they enjoyed the time together and would like to meet again goes a long way. It’s not about grand gestures but about presence, clarity, and thoughtfulness. That kind of emotional attentiveness makes someone feel truly appreciated.”
"If someone is debating whether to use a matchmaker, how do you guide them?"
“If someone is unsure about using a matchmaker, I ask them to reflect on where they are emotionally and energetically in their relationship journey. If they’re ready for partnership but tired of swiping, unsure who to trust, or want a more intentional approach, a matchmaker can be a valuable guide.”
"How do you vet or screen potential matches?"
“I conduct 20 to 30 minute video interviews with all prospects. When vetting matches, I focus on emotional readiness and relationship intentions, lifestyle alignment including values and goals, energy and communication style, past relationship patterns and attachment style, and chemistry potential based on each client’s attraction blueprint. I use intuition, psychological insight, and real conversations to understand if two people could truly enhance each other’s lives. I make sure not to match people who have fundamentally different perspectives on reality.”
"What is the key quality someone should look for in a matchmaker?"
“Discernment—both intuitive and practical. A strong matchmaker knows how to read energy, ask the right questions, and listen for what is not being said. It is not about checking boxes but about sensing alignment, timing, and emotional readiness. The right matchmaker holds both vision and truth and knows how to reflect what a client might not yet see in themselves with honesty, care, and hope.”
"How do you know when it is time to introduce a new match to your client?"
“The reality is, matchmaking works best when clients are open, engaged, and willing to look at their own patterns. I’m not just finding someone for them — in most cases, it is not that simple. I’m holding their vision and holding their hand as they become someone who is truly ready to give and receive the kind of love they want.”
"Do you specialize in a particular type of client or relationship goal?"
“I work with a wide range of clients, but my favorite ones to work with are kind, respectful, and open to reflection and growth. I especially love supporting those who are newer to dating or returning after a long time away. They’re often the most open to learning, and I tend to see the most transformation with them, which is deeply rewarding.”
"What is your favorite thing about being a matchmaker?"
“I love being part of someone’s journey back to hope and love. I enjoy connecting deeply with people and knowing that I am contributing to creating more love in the world. When my happy and appreciative clients reflect that back to me, that is my favorite part of all.”
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Common questions about Jdate matchmaking
Frequently Asked Questions
We understand you might have questions about our service. Here are answers to what people typically ask:
What makes Jdate Matchmaking different from dating websites?
Instead of swiping alone, your personal Matchmaker is like a teammate, helping find quality matches to arranging introductions via quick, easy video dates. All you have to do is focus on making meaningful connections.
I'm not comfortable with technology. Is this for me?
Absolutely. Our platform is designed to be easy and intuitive no matter how tech-savvy you are.
How do you verify members?
Matchmakers personally interview every match they recommend, to make sure their profiles are accurate and authentic.
How does the video meeting process work?
We arrange comfortable video conversations from your home. Just sit back, relax, and let your Matchmaker find people to introduce you to.
What kind of support do you provide?
You receive:
• Personal guidance from your dedicated Matchmaker
• Regular communication on how the search is going
• Ongoing support and feedback on dates
How long does it typically take to meet people?
Everyone's journey is different, and we focus on quality over speed. Your Matchmaker will work at a pace that feels comfortable for you.
Who is this service for?
Jdate Matchmaking is primarily for busy professionals that want to find love with the help of a dedicated matchmaker with access to the largest database of elite singles.
What are the next steps after I purchase Jdate Matchmaking?
After purchasing Jdate Matchmaking, our matchmaker will arrange an intake call with you. This is to better comprehend your preferences and the type of person you're interested in meeting.
Is the setup process and matchmaking questions time-consuming?
The setup process is straightforward and efficient. It involves filling out your profile and preferences, then speaking with the matchmaker for the formal intake process, which typically takes between 30-45 minutes.
Can I specify particular attributes or interests for my matches?
Absolutely. During your conversation with the elite matchmaker, you'll have the opportunity to define specific attributes and interests you're looking for in potential matches.
Can I adjust my preferences after starting the service?
Certainly. It's common for clients to refine their preferences as they progress. Your matchmaker will work closely with you, noting what is and isn't effective in your search for your ideal match.
How does the matchmaker determine suitable matches for me?
Our experienced matchmakers consider your preferences, interests, and core values when interviewing potential prospects to assess compatibility and find your ideal match.
What happens if I don't get any matches I like?
If no matches are found, we'll reevaluate your preferences and collaborate with you to potentially broaden the pool of potential matches.
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